Love Style Test: Which of the Six Love Styles Is Yours?

A love style is a pattern in how you approach romance: what draws you to someone, how fast you commit and what you expect love to feel like from day to day. This love style test does not ask whether you are in love or whether your relationship is healthy. It asks which ways of loving feel most natural to you, so you can see your habits clearly and talk about them.

The love style test has 30 statements, five for each of the six styles. Some describe the rush of attraction, others the comfort of a long friendship, careful planning, playful independence, anxious intensity or generous care. Agreeing with a statement raises the style it belongs to. You can answer about a current partner, a past relationship or how you usually are, whichever gives the most honest picture.

The six love styles come from John Alan Lee, a Canadian sociologist who set out his ideas in the 1973 book Colours of Love. Lee drew on interviews with adults about their love lives and on a long tradition of writing about love, and he borrowed Greek and Latin words to name the patterns he found. A love style test built on his model asks which of those patterns you lean toward.

Lee compared love to a color wheel. Eros, Ludus and Storge are his three primary styles. Mixing two of them gives the three secondary styles: Eros and Ludus make Mania, Ludus and Storge make Pragma, and Eros and Storge make Agape. Just as a painter mixes shades, Lee argued that most people blend several styles rather than fitting a single one, and that a person's mix can change from one relationship to the next.

In the 1980s the psychologists Clyde and Susan Hendrick turned Lee's ideas into a research questionnaire, and the six styles have been studied in many countries since. This love style test is independent of that work. Every statement here was written from scratch for this site, in everyday language, and the scoring is kept simple so you can see exactly how your result is built.

Eros is passionate love: strong attraction, fast emotional closeness and a clear idea of your type. Ludus is playful love: flirting, freedom and no rush to commit. Storge is friendship love: affection that grows slowly from shared time and trust. These three are Lee's primary colors, and many people recognize themselves in at least one of them straight away.

Pragma is practical love: choosing a partner whose goals, values and habits fit the life you want. Mania is anxious, possessive love: intense highs, painful lows and a deep need for reassurance. Agape is selfless love: patient, forgiving care that puts the other person's wellbeing first. None of the six love styles is right or wrong, and each one brings its own gifts and its own typical friction.

Each statement uses a five-point scale from strongly agree to strongly disagree, and the statements appear in a mixed order. When you finish the love style test, each of the six styles gets a score from 0 to 100%. That number is the share of the maximum possible for that style, based on your five answers. It is not a percentile and does not compare you with other people.

Your highest score is your leading love style, and the result lists the other five beneath it. Because Lee saw love styles as blends, the gaps matter as much as the winner. A 75% Storge with a 70% Pragma reads very differently from a 75% Storge with everything else under 30%. If two styles tie, read both descriptions and treat yourself as a mix of the two.

Start with your top style and ask whether it matches how you actually behave, not how you wish you behaved. Then look at your lowest score: it often explains what you find puzzling or tiring in partners. Someone high in Ludus and low in Mania may struggle to understand a partner who needs daily reassurance, and the reverse is just as true.

Your love style test results are most useful as a conversation starter. Ask a partner to take the love style test too, compare your top and bottom styles, and talk about one concrete situation where your styles clashed, such as texting habits or how quickly you each wanted to commit. Naming the pattern can take some of the blame out of an old argument.

A love style test is easy to confuse with two other popular ideas. Love languages describe how you prefer to give and receive affection, such as through words or touch. Attachment styles, rooted in research on how infants bond with caregivers, describe how secure or anxious you feel about closeness. Lee's love styles sit in between: they describe what you believe love is and what you look for in it.

The ideas overlap in places. Researchers have often noted links between the Mania style and anxious attachment, for example. Still, each model asks its own question, and this site has an attachment style test and a love language test if you want to compare all three. For a broader view of your personality beyond romance, the Big Five personality test measures five general traits that shape relationships of every kind.